It spurs an instant reaction – you disagree, he isn’t weak. Is this the right reaction?
Just yesterday this happened to me. I immediately reacted and said, “there’s no way you’re weak, I see your strength every day.” Then I started giving examples when suddenly…
I stopped myself.
They get better!
Being strong all the time doesn’t work!
Anxiety an Depression in Men is Increasing Because:
- Strength and masculinity is associated in contradictory ways. If you don’t have muscles you may not be seen as a “man” and yet on the other side of the spectrum, if you do have muscles then you can’t have emotions.
- When in a new environment you have to figure it out on your own.
- Medical professionals ignore isolation and anxiety as a signs of struggle. In fact, they don’t even ask!
- Being a man is just “understood” and behavior is expected.
- Magazines such as Mens Health and GQ are teaching our kids to cut the fat, intensify exercise, adhere to strict meal protocols and when a male can’t meet these impossible demands, they feel compromised.
- Emotions are no good, they remain as something you shouldn’t share.
- Creativity, expression, softness – all are not characteristic of being masculine.
- Being a “Man” is being a leader.