The truth of the matter
I usually tell clients in their first meeting that therapy can feel a little unfair. I’m going to get to know a lot about who you are and how you struggle, but you won’t get to know a ton about me. That kind of makes sense since I’m supposed to be the one helping and not the other way around. Even so, it’s still a little one-sided, isn’t it? To even things out a bit, I think some introductions and an explanation of how I work are a good way to know what you’re getting in to before you get in to it. I never like leaping before I look, so consider this a way to get to know me before you ever walk in the door.
I actually care. I am hired by those suffering from a problem because I help find relief. In other words, my clinical expertise, insights, passion, and effectiveness has proven to work for the people I’ve helped. With that incredible privilege I also take very seriously the responsibility to give you the most helpful, ethical, and healing service possible.
I’m warm but direct and I do my best to get to the heart of the matter. I never want to waste your time in therapy. We will use candid seriousness with a good mix of humor. The ‘same old therapy messages’ are not helpful all the time, but they are incredibly impactful when irony or a funny twist is added to the mix. I like to wrap important lessons in metaphors. Stories always make therapy easier. It opes up a key to your memory when you need it. Remembering my own teachers when they were great storytellers reminds me of the impact they have made throughout life!
We also get to learn how to hold hope. Yes that’s possible, particularly for clients who feel hopeless. I’ve developed an eye for seeing people for who they really are. You are not simply a collection of diagnoses. Therapy should always have an upbeat energy to the process and keep the work honest, real, and optimistic.
What therapy is and how therapy helps
The bulk of my professional efforts have focused on people who suffered from eating disorders, depression, anxiety, and trauma. Many at high levels of care. This means I’ve helped some very ill people through some of their most difficult moments. From those experiences I’ve been able to watch people go from feeling hopeless to feeling hopeful. This has made me a true believer in the power of therapy to help people heal and move on with their lives.
At rock bottom, I think therapy is a conversation about changing the things you can and learning to live with what you can’t. We can’t erase our emotions, be perfect all the time, or control how others behave. You may have been told that you just have to learn to accept those realities, but that can be tough to do – unless you know how. On the other hand we can change how to think, how we handle those inevitable emotions, and how we treat ourselves. Again, change can be hard, and having a savvy therapist who not only wants to help, but knows how to help, can make the process of change go much smoother.
Putting it all together
Getting better from an eating disorder, depression, anxiety, trauma, and everything else can be a real challenge. Combing through each individual issue, addressing real problems, changing what needs to be different, and defining happiness for yourself are all major obstacles to overcome. If you decide to work with me, I will offer every ounce of wisdom, effort, enthusiasm, and support I can find! Healing can be hard work, but with the right therapist, you won’t have to do it alone.